Baby s' day out!!: Father s Day special !!!

So at the outset i would like to mention this blog is not about the sunshine boy this is about the other boy in my life the 'Hubby Boy' :) so a (Hubby s) friend asked me when do we get to read a blog on him and my answer was whilst hes always on my mind i dint really find enough content to blog on him (and then hes also this shy thing although on the outside he does'nt look so :)) and obviously the most comprehensive encyclopedia ever assembled, the internet does not give me serious or complex content b'cos my blogs are mostly personal diaries and i have to do some serious thinking keeping away all those mind numbing distraction the touch screen, touch texting etc oh yes some of my blogs are travel info blogs too so i do use mother internet a lot to cross check if im not publishing something wrong, nevertheless i thought why not take this a tad serious and decided i'l write on him for 'Father s day' afterall its a special day that falls on a sunny sunday!!

And.. . whilst hes always on my mind i must admit hes on my mind the most when things go wrong and i'm busy scolding him in my mind :) but of course ;) hes on my mind when there is a kitchen mess courtesy 'sunshine', hes on my mind when im out to fetch grocery to the indian store and sunshine is busy dropping all the green beans on the floor or trying to open and close the cold storage door and im like i wish the Hubby was here to handle this lil thing, hes on my mind when im drained off and need some 'me' time and he messages saying 'client dinner' trust me i have the 'devil horns' look, so in short hes on my mind in most of the arghhhhh moments :))

But i thought its so unfair on my part to not appreciate how he helps me otherwise. So when we had our little sunshine the little that he was - zero days old, the Hubby decided he wants to experience everything about fatherhood from day zero and since the hospital had a policy of only one member sleeping overnight he decided to stay in the hospital the very first night we had our sunshine and little did he know it was surely not a piece of cake to handle two cranky babies but he did a great job. After the hospital story when we welcomed the baby back home he was the one who learnt from the nurses back in the hospital how to swaddle the baby, how to prepare the formula milk and how to change Diapers !! He'd even rock the baby and put him to sleep, and times when the little baby did not know the difference between Day and Night and would stay up all night the Hubby would be up all night too. All this with no paternal leave as such and with 2 hours of sleep and making it to work next morning the Hubby came up with dehydration and was terribly sick :( Although we had a wonderful support system from both grandparents the point i wana make is the Hubby went out of his way to live his moment as a Father in those initial days. of course after the sickness and with work pressure he could'nt do much of the baby chores as time passed. But till date the little thing if he sees his Dad he wants him to bathe him and clean him after potty :) bcos the two of them have a lot of fun in water.

Taking care of each other!!!

our little trio world!!

I realise in the little trio world that we live in the west today its the small little things that matter that make you a complete family its more important that we take care of each other and help each other aint it? (back in India it did not matter bcos we had so many people to help & take care of us and our baby,,, we dint even realise who did what). A thought passed by me while im writing this 'taking care part' - So i wanted to be a full time Mom bcos i love it its a choice i made for my son... So this female co-worker pinged me one day just to ask me why i chose not to get back to work and she cant imagine me being a 'housewife' also went to the extent of telling me this other co worker in her new office manages home, work and 2 kids. Okay so 'thanks but no thanks' obviously was my reply to that chat window with a piece of my mind to that fat thing.

( my piece of mind reads : We are very good lawyers to our own mistakes or deeds
and very good Judges to others ...So stop being judgemental.)

Firstly why cant people mind their own business. secondly what is wrong with the women today the so called glorified career corporate women of India why is this whole concept of a career women so hyped up only in India, in fact when i went for my first interview here my employer was like 'being a full time mom is a job by itself and the toughest one for sure' of course things are different here and i understand India is developing nation and women in those days were not allowed to study and had to take care of household, kids, parents and could not live a life for themselves... but today don't we think we have a bit of everything there are more women engineers, doctors, and other professionals but in the event of trying to break the glass ceiling and going strong on this women power attitude and trying to be independant some of them are just competing with their reflective outlook and their ego (but of course) Again i dont mean to generalise the corporate women here bcos i have some lovely friends from the corporate world who are women but definitely don't throw an attitude like this one. We all just respect each others choice and decisions of life.!!

To me as a family if you have to 'take care' of each other you have to be dependant on each other i was so so dependant on my father till i graduated and now if im dependant on my husband and im also a 'stay home mom' and i cook a meal for my family does that make me a 'housewife' bring it on then bcos i love it, i love being dependant on the Hubby bcos it gives me a sense of security,I love cooking a special breakfast on sunday for the Hubby, i like packing his tiffin for work, i like deciding what i should be packing or cooking the next day, i like waiting for him to get home and have dinner with me, of course i love using his credit card for my shopping :) so today if i have more time i ought to go out of my way to do things for the Hubby afterall he did it too when i needed it the most - as simple as that. Husband s graduate to take the title of a Father and its the biggest promotion in their life too. 'When a child is born a mother is born' heard that quote? I'd rephrase this to 'When a child is born a mother & father are born'. So on Father s day what better gift than a few lines of gratitude ...

Here goes sunshine s' gratitude list

Thank you Daddy for your help popping bubbles!!
Thank you Daddy for chasing after balls!!
Thank you Daddy saddling up for shoulder rides!!
Thank you Daddy for the horseback rides!!
Thank you Daddy for being my dance partner!!
Thank you Daddy for lifting me to the sky like a rocketship!!
Thank you Daddy for all those kisses and cuddling!!

Thank you Daddy for being Daddy!!

Most often i do not know how to end my blog and this time i got a little mushy i must admit :) anyway i decided to publish this Hubby Daddy blog on 'father s day' that falls on June 15 b'cos I planned a small surprise for 'The special day' and wanted to post a pic of these cute little things i got custom made for him and also did some DIY craft with sunshine for Daddy .... here s wishing the 'Hubby' a very 'Happy Father s Day' you are a 'Super Dad' our 'Super Hero'. Stay blessed forever!!! And did i tell you my Father is visiting me here in PA this year, woo hoo yes i get to live my moment as a daughter and celebrate Father s Day with full swing :):) Happy Happy Fathers Day to my darling 'Appa' and to Daddy (my Father in Law) stay blessed forever and thank you God for this special day - for 'Father s 'Day'!!!